Saturday, December 21, 1996

Should I text her or am I bothering her?

I've got a friend who is 2 years older than me and I really look up to her and go to her for advice a lot, which she doesn't seem to mind. (We only talk through text and facebook most of the time because she lives in a different city).

She used to talk to me about problems she had and we'd talk for hours, but lately she's been going through a lot with her partner and hasn't been talking to me much. (Her partner gets jealous when we talk).

I want her to know that I still care about her and want her to know that I'm still here if she wants to talk, but because we don't talk as much and never see each other, we're not as close as we used to be.

Do you think I should still text her asking how she is and if things are any better with her partner? And then remind her that I'm always here if she needs someone?

How will I know if I'm bothering her or not? She's usually polite and texts back quite long messages, so I wouldn't be able to tell by what she texts back, if she was annoyed. Although sometimes she won't reply to me, if she's with her partner or if she doesn't have any money on her phone.

What should I do if she doesn't reply? Assume she's annoyed or just doesn't have money? Should I then try to talk to her on facebook, but then if she was annoyed she wouldn't want to talk to me there either.

How often should I try to text her or talk to her on facebook? We used to talk like 5 times a week but now we barely talk once a week... I don't want to over do it

Answer on Should I text her or am I bothering her?

Just give her some time, as she tries to resolve her issues with her partner. It okay to let her know you are there for her, just don't push it.

It's probably also hard on her...just give her sometime.