Sunday, June 3, 2001

What is your definition of a passive-aggressive person?

Someone on Twitter told me that "my remarks often seem passive-aggressive." I have a vague idea of what that means. But I honestly don't view anything I've said to her as being that way. For the longest time I thought we got along fine.

It's bothering me a lot. And it hurts my feelings, because I don't understand it.

Can someone give me one or more examples of what a passive-aggressive comment might be?

Answer on What is your definition of a passive-aggressive person?

Ambiguity or speaking cryptically: a means of creating a feeling of insecurity in others or of disguising one's own insecurities.
Chronically being late and forgetting things: another way to exert control or to punish.
Fear of competition
Fear of dependency
Fear of intimacy as a means to act out anger: The passive–aggressive often cannot trust. Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attached to someone.
Making chaotic situations
Making excuses for non-performance in work teams
Victimization response: instead of recognizing one's own weaknesses, tendency to blame others for own failures.